How to give pressure unnecessarily

My son is strong willed and daring(the usual behaviour for any boy child).

Recently, I noticed that I was shouting and reacting to his antics more often than before. It was as if I had no control, before I knew it I was on a roll and I did not like it.

I decided to look into the trigger for this short fuse with him and one day, while shouting at him for the umpteenth time, it clicked.

My reaction was fueled by what would people say? They will call me a bad mother who was not raising her children properly if I do not spank and shout…therefore my motivation(though it looks like it outside) was not to correct my son but to look good to people who may not even care or do not even matter.

When this sank in I stopped short in shock… 😳

The world has enough pressure to give if we allow it, people go about with the badges of know it all trying to push down their opinions and criticism down everyone’s throat, I usually ignore them but I didn’t know those words were sticking to me and fueling my behaviour.

I am learning the need to think through before taking actions, pause before reacting, understand the continuous act of unlearning thought patterns and mindsets.

So help me God😁

Parenting is pressure enough, don’t put extra pressure on your self by worrying about what people will think or say.