Long Distance or Long Distance 🤷🏽♀️
I don’t know about those outside Nigeria but for those of you us in Naija…
Are we noticing how it’s becoming a norm for couples to be living apart? The man only visits weekends or monthly, bimonthly e.t.c.
There are legitimate reasons/excuses why this is happening but I am beginning to think it’s another hidden tactic that we need to watch out for.
Children are now getting used to absent fathers and seeing it as a norm. E.g in my compound of 8 families, only 3 of the men are around. I heard the children talking one day, and they believed daddies have to stay away to make money for the family😳.
I have friends who have not stayed together since they got married. One told me she is used to it and doesn’t want them to live together anymore, even when there was an opportunity to do so. Another said she’s scared of how their relationship will be because staying apart is all they have known(her parents too stayed apart till her dad retired)
I said my case will be different so I got a transfer and came to join my husband in Abuja, only for him to get a job in the location we left to join him.
How do you resolve issues on the phone? How do you balance parenting when it’s one person who is carrying all the edges most of the time?
Most people don’t see the big deal in this if the couples are okay with it.
Am I the only one noticing and concerned with this rising trend?
