Parenting with God series 3(Bright’s Children)

This is an aspect of parenting with God that is very important to me. Let me give an instance, most of us entered parenting with an idea; my children will behave like this, I will not be as critical/harsh/authoritative/permissive like my parents or someone I know, my children will blabla…

Then the children arrive and if you are an open-minded person you learn and unlearn, if not you become a broken record repeating the same pattern over and over cos you feel you know all there is to know.

Recently, my second daughter did something that shocked me when I heard, I had believed we had done the lessons for that class and passed the examination but the behaviour proved there was an issue somewhere. Being a deep thinker, I blew it out of proportion in my head/mind(not in front of them) but I kept asking, “God what do I do?” Cos I had no clue how to handle it. I felt I had failed as a mother and was almost getting depressed (I told you I overthink things🤦‍♀️).

While I was worried and mooning about in self-pity, the first thing God did for me was to change my perspective, He reminded me that; yes she did make the mistake, but they came to report it themselves, rather than hide it from us even when they knew it was grievous. This restored my peace.

The next day, she did something very trivial but I heard, this is where the loophole came from, this seemingly harmless behaviour you’re have been overlooking is what led to the big one she reported to you yesterday. Immediately, I took note and corrected the behaviour. The third day I got a story inspiration that will clearly explain to her and her siblings why the behaviour was not okay. Like we all know, stories are very interesting and quick way to pass the message to both adults and children.

In three days, God took me through the steps on how to correct the behaviour from the root and we are still using it.. I use this for lots of things, even their complicated school assignments. I ask, Father, what do I do?” Then listen, and the solution clicks in my head.

This is a part of parenting with God I cannot do without and I am very grateful for. He has all the blueprint and doesn’t get tired of my questions, silly or not… So, why not just carry the load to him?

What are you struggling with as a parent?

Do you want to keep doing both caretaker and landlord duty over your children?

It’s up to you.🤷🏼‍♀️